What does she really mean by these words?

Chapter I.


“My boyfriend is really cute” (in behavioral context)

She is saying her boyfriend is childish, immature and a cartoon type figure.

Why a cartoon type figure?

Of course he provides her with a lot of laughs; he is very much in love with her, and does extremely cute stuff; but his role in her life in not of a man but of a child. So it implies, and even though she will never admit, but whenever she needs a guiding and a righteous piece of advice, her boyfriend is the last person she goes to. That doesn't mean she doesn't tell him of her problem. He is always there for her support, but never can be a problem solver. A girl never opens her true self in front of him because subconsciously she always knows that he won't understand.

Of course, being amazingly cute does entertain a girl, and doing movie-type of stuff always reminds her of your love.

Always remember: This kind of stuff is not worthless, but it is absolutely not needed. A woman is always bound to be influenced by a figure of a perfect classic man (No doubts there). The true way into a woman's heart is through the deepest corners of her mind; so never even bother to entertain her trying to captivate her heart.

For example: You must have noticed around you very often, - guys send flowers to girls everyday, or he is immediately buying her anything she lays her eyes upon; guys trying to be desperately surprising by planning an entire event and showing to others that they have no life; guys suddenly becoming mythical heroes and fighting anyone who challenges their male instincts in front of a girl, when in private they can't kill a mosquito.

Solution: First of all, all such stuff can be directly replaced by an artistic event. For example: If you buy her a phone, - of course it's going to be an expensive one - it will always remind her of the phone, and not you. Meanwhile, if you create something as small as a letter, it can only and only remind her of you, regardless of how bad you have written. Why?

Because behind a creation there is always an effort; stuff like writing a song, or writing a letter, they all show a personal effort; now the second thing that makes these creations supreme is - you picked up art. Art is a universal weapon for every lover if he can implement it. If you can't write a song, try poetry, if you can't do that, try simple stuff like making her a CD full of her favorite love songs.

Second of all, if you can just give her an insight about her life, it equals a thousand bucks spent on some dress or shoes or a bag or a teddy bear from some gallery. Try to be patient; don't try to buy her out because even though you make her happy by doing all of that, you are never going close to her heart. You are just becoming an amusement or a gift shop rather than being a figure she could respect, or might feel to be the closest person in her life.








 
What does she really mean by these words?


Chapter II


"I need my space."

This statement is generally said in two contexts - one, when she is speaking in relation to her boyfriend; and second, when you are her boyfriend and she is saying it to you. In the first scenario, when she is saying this in relation to her boyfriend, immediately get his: there are high chances of their break up and her boyfriend won't be the one to initiate it. If you are ever talking to a girl, and even mistakenly hear this statement, just know she is looking for a replacement.
If you tell her this, she may not talk to you, and hate you for mentioning such an impossible event (breaking up with her boyfriend). She will, till her last breath, admit that she is in deep love with her boyfriend; so the question you are supposed to ask her is this - Why do you need space? Or what makes you think he doesn't give you your space?

The point is that you just need to press on to the conversation regarding her certain statement so you can exactly figure out what her situation is! Now there are exactly five types of girl situations when they say 'I need my space’:
- Girls who face a lot of problems; for example: domestic violence, extreme guilt due to past experiences, passing away of a loved one, and similar stuff.
- Girls who are smarter than their boyfriends.
- Girls who are overly bold and confident, and authoritative. (I am not saying smart)
- Girls who have psychological issues. For example - the type of girls whose major life decisions are based on mood swings.
- Girls who are pretentious. (And dumb)

In the first type, the girls facing such similar day-to-day problems get a little serious in life, and prefer an amount of seriousness from people who are close to them too. They relate themselves with people with an understanding of their problems (which they hardly share). Now, such type has another two types. One type of this category is the suicidal types, for example: girls, who cut their wrists, try to commit suicide but never make it, hurt themselves because they like experiencing physical pain. The second type of this category goes into books. They are smarter and hence adopt a creative way to let out their inner feelings. They go into music, or write dark poems, or write stories but always focus on the dark side of mankind, and it is easily noticeable. These both types of girls never fall for the beauty of love, as they are, in their own way, seeking answers, and I am not saying that they won't fall into a relationship; of course they would, but the relationships won't last for long