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What does she really mean by these words?


"I need my space"


Chapter III




Reason: 

To be in a relationship with such a girl is a complicated thing, as they demand a perfect understanding of their problems and a guy they don't want just because he is a perfectly good object to show off. It won’t matter if a guy does very cute stuff or looks like a Greek God or loves her like a mythical hero; she would any-day prefer a normal average looking guy who can just tell her about her problems when she hasn't even revealed them, or could figure out what she is feeling inside or what she's thinking about.
Now, when they haven't met such a guy and are in a relationship; such type of girls demands their space.

The second type, it is pretty obvious that they don't enter into the relationship because of the guys' brains; either (mostly) he is very good-looking or it is out of some non-understandable reason like 'he loved her very much so she couldn't say no', or 'they were very good friends and he forced her into this', and so on.

The thing about majority of girls is that they do take relationships seriously, and hence, compromising becomes a routine and overlooking flaws a habit. She would constantly have problems over his behavior and believe me she will talk about them with her friends, but never with him. She gives herself reasons like he loves me so much. In this case, a girl never uses this statement in front of her boyfriend, but frequently uses it in front of her friends, and most observantly, in front of a selected group of people she considers as smart, and opens herself to. 
Note: It's very simple to join that group of people in her eyes. All you have to do is: 
- Always listen to her, without giving any expression except of curious understanding, as if you are minutely studying something.
- Push deeper into her thoughts (another way of saying: invading into her privacy just by asking more questions picked out from her own sentences, so that it seems like it's a part of a conversation initiated by her only)
They say "I need my space", whenever their relationship with their boyfriends go anywhere away from being two lovable teddy-bears i.e. whenever:
- He reminds her that he is dumb.
- She meets a smart guy, and the comparison makes her realize that he's dumb.
- She reads in some story or novel about some character that pretty much reminds her of the image of an ideal man. 
- He tries to control her life.
In this case, the girl literally becomes self-assured and would never reveal that she has even the slightest of wants or needs to have a man in her life that is capable of telling her what is right or wrong, or correct her decisions, or guide her in any way.

 



 
What does she really mean by these words IV

Chapter IV

The third type may be divided into two more subdivisions. The first in this subdivision is the snobbish, arrogant, stubborn, self-obsessed type, generally. This type majorly includes highly pampered girls who have been treated like princesses all their lives. And because of their lavish and materialistic lifestyle, they form conclusions regarding life which are immature, childish, fairy-tale like, and self centered. Why are they overly bold and confident, and authoritative? It is because since childhood, they have mostly received acceptance and hardly been suppressed. And also because of this protection from the harsh truths of life, their fairy tale concepts almost
transform into something they maintain. Things that happen because of this: 

- They form a very materialistic lifestyle that is almost impossible to change.
- Money is never a factor for them; in fact, they are mostly driven into buying their lovers expensive gifts.
- They believe in love very strongly, quite akin to the fairy tales’ love depiction.
- They form their own notions and logics regarding matters of love and life; and often shower their wisdom over friends by advising them. They are highly emotional about their friends, and rebellious to their enemies.
When do they demand their space?

- Whenever the boyfriends have a problem with their materialistic lifestyle.
- Whenever the boyfriends have a problem with her friends.
- Whenever they have a problem with their logics/ attitude. 

Always remember: If you truly love her, then you don’t want to be wandering over these topics. If she hangs out with her friends late in the nights, it’s her lifestyle and friends. But if you are facing a similar problem, then please refer to the chapter 20^th century speech. That’s a permanent solution.
The second type in this subdivision is called pseudo- intellectuals. There are majority of girls in the pseudo-intellectual category who become cocky because they have read enough books, or watched many good movies, or score really high in their class, and so on. Their basic attitude is that they are unresponsive towards guidance. They have extracted meanings and views from different writers and books; and reading has given them a confidence and superiority over matters which need a thought. These types of girls are also bold, confident and authoritative by nature. Now, why do they demand space? 

- Whenever a guy tells them that their thoughts are wrong or borrowed.
- Whenever a guy argues over a thought, mocks them, or tries to change the definition of their much valued and held notions and precepts.

 

The fourth type should not be a problem to understand. Such type of girls have random mood swings; at one point they crave for something or someone like it’s the end of the world, and the next moment, if their mood fumbles, they might treat it like garbage or just an ordinary thing. Their need for space totally depends on their mood swings. They would suddenly miss someone so much, or want to be with their boyfriends and taken care of; but it won’t be a surprise if one of such type of girls is out, and is totally ignoring her boyfriend’s calls or messages. Their main intentions are never to ignore or hurt, they are too much driven by their mood swings.



The last type is the type of girls who are pretentious. These types of girls have major personality issues, and have a strong fixation with a word called cool. Their entire lifestyle/ choices/ dressing sense etc changes with the changing definition of cool for them. These are mostly girls who move from small cities to Capitals, Metropolitans, in which the life they believe is happening and cool. They are generally college girls, and very much influenced by the ideas from Sitcoms, of being friends in a group and hanging out, and similar stuff. When do they demand space? Whenever their boyfriends try to control their lives, and are against the concept of cool (unknowingly) or whenever they find that their boyfriend is not cool.

how to break up with a girl

Many a time, you soon enough realize that this relationship is a bad idea,some time u think " how to break up with a girl that loves you,how to break up with a girl that loves you,i don't love my girlfriend but she loves me,i dont love her anymore,"or this girl has turned out to be something you least expected, and you decide that you have to break-up immediately. But the breaking- up seems really impossible because you cannot just say it to her face. Here are all the ways in which you can cleverly break up with a girl without creating any scene:



1) I want to tell you a secret. I am Bi-sexual.
The timings of pulling this off doesn't really matter, but the way does. You have to be very serious with her, and not at all reveal at any second that you are lying. You tell her - "all this while I loved you like crazy and I want to be with you, but I had this one secret and I can't keep with myself anymore, and you deserve to know." You tell her that throughout the relationship you were also committed with a guy, and you stay with him on weekends. The point is, you tell her to accept your boyfriend and that you love them both.


2) Distance
If you don't meet a girl on regular basis and talk, things slow down at great degree. Tell her that you have to go to another city, for work/ studying/ make anything up. But this doesn't apply to everyone, because if you are in college/ workplace, and you have told her about it. But for those who haven't, just tell her you are out, and you can't pick her calls, or switch your phone off in the night and sleep. Remember: I am not telling you to actually go somewhere. You stay at your own place, but don't meet or talk.


3) You are going abroad.
The next thing? You just got into a University in South Bronx, west Minnesota (make anything up). You can even say Jungles of Amazon or the Lake of Loch. Don't say that we are breaking up, focus on - "we can still work this out. Long distance isn't that hard if we love each other, plus I'll come once in every year."


4) When you are kissing her, close your eyes, and say your ex-girlfriend's name.
Guaranteed 100 % break- up.


5) You can't forgive yourself, last night at a party you got drunk and made a mistake.
Infidelity always plays a genuine role in breaking up, but why can't you fake it? Tell her that you were at this wild party, you got drunk and had sex/ or kissed if kissing is that a big thing for your girl/ (add anything that will get you your freedom). And now you are telling her this as you can't lie to her




6) It's you, it's not me.
If you want to break-up, why do you have throw it on her face? A person never regrets something if he/she has let it out. So don't break-up with her, let her do it with you. Try to think how glorious she'd feel that she was the one who took the bold step - something that had to be done. The point is: there are no regrets. How do you do that?

- Commit mistakes
After a long relationship, or even short one, a guy well-enough knows the small thing she hates, dislikes, et cetera. All you need to do is do all them, figuratively. For example - If she hates when you don't pick her call, let it ring. Once she'll forgive you, twice, but thrice you'll face her wrath, and by god, anything is possible.
If she is against smoking, or is a vegetarian, you pick the cause. Just pick anything that irritates her beyond limits.
- Oppose her thoughts
Now it is very hard to find out if the girl really has ideologies or thoughts, but what I am talking about here could be anything religious to beliefs. For example- If she is a religious person, be opposed to religion (in just her eyes only), and get good points to have a debate about it. If she is an intellectual then you are in for a treat, because then you can many topics.


- Oppose her interests
Most of the girls like dancing, if you want to break-up, tell her to stop it. You can have very good reasons such as History of dancing involving pleasing the Emperors, and it isn't an equal art to Music, Painting or literature. Again, I am not asking you to believe all of this, but since you have to break up, you'll have to have absurd but good points about the argument that you are leading.


- Oppose her friends
This works every time, tell her that "I don't like this very friend of yours", or find a friend of hers who doesn't like you, then say to your girlfriend that you don't want her to be hanging around him/ her anymore (because he/she started it). Note: Try to find a guy-friend of hers to be in tussle with.
You'll start to have sides then, and she would do stuff from time to time that won't be acceptable, or lie to you because she doesn't want to be rude to her friend too. And there, break up!


7) Start forgetting stuff
It doesn't just start with her birthday, a relationship is like manual in which there are limitless guidelines you have to remember and follow. If you do that, she would think:
- You have lost interest in me
- You aren't serious about the relationship anymore.
and similar stuff
But you can always give a plain face, say -'It's nothing like that', 'I am sorry, baby', and continue being disinterested. .

Step I - Friendship

Step II - Be her best friend. 

Step III - Build a story

Step IV - Whatever you are doing, You are doing great. 

Step V - Check where you stand


Step VI - It is Cool. 


Step VII - Ask her the question / Confuse her. 


Step VIII - Be patient


Now that you have come to this stage, you have to realize that you are not the only one trying to get this chick on your side, there are others too, for example: Her boyfriend. Yes, he is the biggest provider in your case. What are the common things in every couple? 
- Arguments. 
- Things they don't like about each other. 
- Fights. 
- Egos clashing. 


When you are certain of so many powerful things that are bound to happen, you just stand back and wait for them to happen. What do you do? 
Whenever she will have a fight, it is your moment. You never patch them up, you never set them apart, don't do that, breaking off a relationship isn't that simple. What you do is magnify the little things by talking too much about them. You talk to her about why they fought? She wouldn't want to talk about it, but never leave it to that. You have to take it out of her. When she does, she won't stop, and all you have to do is listen. Now the following results could be any - suppression, difference in their ideas, ideologies, lifestyle, friends, behavior, talking style... anything. The basic result is compromise. All you have to say to no matter what her problem is - 
"That is called compromising. You are compromising in this relationship and that's it. You can get back with him in a second, just compromise. I thought you were one strong personality", and make the most disgusting face. Don't say anything over that. 


Step IX - (optional) - Target her other female friends. 
The best thing for you to do would be make them your 'cute little sisters'. Treat them like they are the most adorable things around, all of them. This way, they adore you like anything, and there is no chance you might have a possibility of anyone amongst them falling for you. The biggest patching up agents are mostly a girl's female friends. If you have them on your side, you can manipulate them like puppets. This is the moment when you tell them that you have fallen in love with her. Why now, why not earlier? There is a two big reasons for that, first, you don't ever want to show that your feelings have always been to woo her since the beginning; secondly, with time, you prove to everyday that you are a really good friend but you fell for her in the end, which was eventual and nobody would think of anything. 


Step X - Study her. 
This is the last and the most important step. In this, you study what her actions were after the fight, and what are the things she lack to break up with her boyfriend. To be honest, if you challenge the girl's ego, she would break up instantaneously without a thought to prove that she is not weak; but just in case if she doesn't, use her friends. And they have broken up, you remain the only contender in her life.