We were friends but I told her I love her, she stopped talking.

This is a very general problem with guys now! So before telling you the solutions, I want to tell you where you made your mistake.


Every guy needs to understand some nonsensical statements of girls:






- We are just friends/ I always took as a friend and nothing more/ I never expected this from you/ blahblah.


All these types of statements are plain statements without any meanings, and therefore, they are blahblahblah.
Always remember: If you had gotten so close that she considered you a good friend, then you had already completed 70 % of your wooing. The mistake that you made was you thought that 70 % was 100 %.


You need to know that girls change their minds very easily and constantly, at one point, they will say they want to be single, but in just another day, they will be seeing someone. You have to use this as your power.
Things you do:


- You never listen to her resolutions.
- You don't listen to whatever she is saying her perfect boy is going to be.
- You never listen to her proper way of doing things or what not she wants from life.
- And apply this to everything she is saying.


Everything can be changed with the proper application of words and its usage. All you need to do is look for the right method to turn it around. The biggest mistakes of guys is when they actually start following what a girl tells her that she wants from relationship/ life. When you are doing that, you are digging your own grave.


What do you do now?


- The first step of yours and the basic need of time demands you to be back in her life right now. Think how?
Think as many ways as you can, don't care if you are being evil in your ways. If a simple apology can do the trick, then go right away. But being rejected once always reduces the intensity of relationship.

How to get your ex-girlfriend back!

The few things you need to find out are:

- If she is single or not.

- If not, then, is she serious about that guy or not.

- Does she still love you or not.

- What is the current state between you two!

Based on the answers of these question, you can ascertain where you stand. It is very easy to get any girl back if she hasn't moved on. It's a little tougher if she has. But it's hell tougher if she has found someone.

The number of ways you can get your ex-girlfriend back are:

- You need one Conversation
This method applies to the recently broken-up couples. But the main problem with recently broken-up couples is that they have just broken up; and break-ups, at the end, somehow result to very similar emotional results

-- The last call was filled with anger, a lot of swearing, and the resultant end is 'You were the biggest mistake of my life', 'The shi* thing is I'll never get this time back', 'You are the dumbest person I know', 'I never knew you were such a jerk', and the noises of phones smashing.

-- The other type of break up is when two people try to sound very mature, and call it a mutual break-up. It mostly happens when either one of them has successfully entered into another relationship due to which passion of the current relationship has steamed down. It's mostly out of the gradual dying of passion, symptoms and reasons are many.

-- The last reason is when you leave someone without the break-up talk. In other words, running away.

What is the method?

This method applies to the above-mentioned first two cases. Most people think that mutual break-ups solve many things, but that isn't true. A break up is always a break up, and the effects are absolutely similar. The only difference is that there are no phone-smashing, profanity-exchanging, angry fights. Why do you think the saying It's hard to be friends with ex-es is true!

What you need in this method is one conversation, and when you get it, the only thing that you need to show is you are normal and happy. This is the exact something an ex doesn't expect from you after you have recently broken up, because to her, the break-up has been very tough. It's psychological, but the connection between you two is still very strong. She expects you to be sad and hurt. For example- while talking if she mentions that she, now, has a boyfriend; you'd be pretty much taken aback because you haven't even recovered, even though it doesn't matter as you have broken up. And this is the same trick.

What you do?

Before the call, just think of the first day you talked to her or any girl you have ever wooed. Remember how fresh you were, how enthusiastic, your sense of humor, and everything your voice presented to her that made her talk to you again. What you have to do is get that day back again. Learn one fact:

- She wants to see you sad and hurt, even though she won't show it. If you just play with this little fact in her head, you have a 5 year old, confused and lost little baby, you need to take back to the home team.

How do you become very Good friends with her again after being rejected!

When you have been rejected by a girl, your friendship suffers. (let's call it friendship)

If you are wooing a girl, you are actually never her friend. You pretend to be like and fulfill the idea in her mind of being one. That is the reason why you always focus on being best friends. You constantly, wherever needed, mention that - 'Hey, I am your best girlfriend', 'oh yes, After all, thou art my best friend'; the trick is to make it sound funny, and being funny is actually the way you turn everything serious.

It's all about moving forward, because as I have told before, you are NOT the only one trying to woo her at the exact same time. There would be others, the trick is to stay calm, because if you lose your cool, you become exactly like them.
When you have told a girl that you loved her and she rejected you; just simply understand one thing: You didn't do anything wrong, except for the timings.
What most guys fail to understand is, the game of wooing- regardless of your intentions being pure or wicked- is a pure game relied on timings, which means a man with patience is the King.


Why do guys say I love you before the time?
The guys mostly reveal their feelings as they get convinced by a feeling that she loves me. How does that feeling in them gets aroused?
- If she is properly responding to your messages.
- She messages a good-morning or a goodnight each day.
- She picks up my call over anyone's.
- She treats me very nicely and cares about me.
And similar stuff.
The point is, if you read all of this, it's not bad. But it's not 100 %. If a girl has fallen for you, which means it is 100 %, she would herself give you ten thousand signals that she wants to be in a relationship with you. For guys who want to know what these signals are, the very first and most common ones are jealousy and a little possessiveness. She's start being a little jealous about your other female friends by openly criticizing them, and a little possessive by being sensitive to your actions and what you do.
Always remember: being possessive are two different things in a male and female.