The steps are continued from How to steal a Girl from a relationship!
Obviously the bond between the two would be stronger than between you and her. So, her boyfriend can crush you anytime.
Point- stay low profile
It all depends upon the image you keep
If your image is of a smart guy:
- A smart girl may not even mention about your existence to her boyfriend, and discuss with you pivotal stuff about her life and relationship. But in this case, the assumption is that her boyfriend is very dumb and you are very smart/ smarter than him.
- But if she is dumb/ or her boyfriend is very smart; she will talk to him about you, and tell him everything as she is very loyal and discusses everything about the people she meets/ talks to. And in this conversation, if by mistake, you come out too strong, it will create a certain air of discomfort for her boyfriend about you. So that is our first problem.
Optional: You can keep a guy who is creating problems for her on the focus of her boyfriend. This way you maintain a goodwill in the eyes of her boyfriend, and totally change his focus too. Don't try to be a hero, keep away from all the troubles.
Step II - Be her best friend.
A guy never sees it, but the way to a girl's heart, the shortest way, is by telling/ showing/assuring her that you will never hit on her. And the sole cause you are talking to her is because she is the only person you have ever met in your life with such a pure heart (make her feel special by using the most overrated lines, yes she will buy them).
Now if you'll observe from a distance the hottest chicks are always surrounded by a company of same looking, constantly blabbing, pompous women, giving out the effect that it is impossible to be friends with her. But all of them - kept individually - are the loneliest creatures, and that is the reason why they keep for falling for guys.
step III - Build a story
Why don't you want to hit on her?
Don't just leave it to 'Because I am a good guy'. Saying 'I am in a relationship is safe', and later on you can break it off, and hit on her. But what's the best way to get her sympathy?
A great emotional story; not like you belong to a vampire clan or something, but yeah movie type. What guys generally have to offer is:
- I broke up and it was really tough on me.
- We had been together for ___ months/ years, and she left me.
Now, this is what she sees and hears tens times a day. It won't get you any real sympathy. Unless your story is something like:
- I left home at 15, because I wanted to do something on my own. I came to New York City with nothing in my hand but my violin. The first three years were the hardest, and back home I lost my Brother in Iraq, who was also my best friend. I have been alone since.
- I loved her more than my life, (build the cutest story about how you met), and on my wedding, when she was on her way to the Church/ Venue/ whatever; she met with a Car accident and passed away.
Why do you build a story?
The story gets her strongly and emotionally attached to you that she'd even fight with her boyfriend but would never let you go.
Step IV - Whatever you are doing, You are doing great.
Don't for even a second get that you are a loser from the story above. Even though you are emotionally hungry, you are doing great in life. Why?
Because a woman can never relate emotions with financial standards. Why? I have no clue. Let's say they are bad in mathematics. So don't ever show that you are unsuccessful/ living in someone else's couch, if you are, show her a very diplomatic reason for it.
Step V - Check where you standNow you from here you have to understand by this time, some problems would naturally emerge in the mind of her boyfriend. But if you have come this far, you are very close to victory. How to check where she places you:
- Call her in the night or anytime she is talking to her boyfriend on the phone, see if she picks your call over him or not.
- Does she hang out with you more than what is normal?
- Does she share with you everything that is going in the relationship?
If the answer is negative, then improvise. You have to have the level of amusement she is demanding that will help you precede her boyfriend. Note: Do your homework. Don't try coming out all random and spontaneous, even the greatest players do their homework.
Step VI - It is Cool.
In this step, you start challenging the restrictions placed by her boyfriend. You don't openly say anything, for example:
- If she says that her boyfriend is very liberal and lets her do anything she wants.
You say: Do you know what that means? It means either he is not serious for you or he is seeing other girls at the same time, both ways - he is not serious for you. Just imagine male psyche for a second, do you think a guy who loves a girl like insanely, won't impose his possession or set limits?
When you do that, although she may shout to prove that this isn't true, she would get confused.
- If she says that her boyfriend doesn't allow her to do ______ (put anything), you simply give the most biggest expression of surprise and frown.
You say: If he loves you truly, he'd accept you as you are, and if there was anything in you that had to be changed or compromised, then why don't I just call you his robot?
Work both the ways, but put in her mutiny day by day. Don't be extreme because you don't want her to be mentioning your name in between of a fight with her boyfriend.
Step VII - Ask her the question / Confuse her.
Now is the time to ask her the big question -
Do you really love him? Don't just say yes, remember the times you have been in love strongly and how it all ended one day, so clearly differentiate between love and final love, and then say - Do you think this guy is the guy of your life?
Don't be bothered what the answer she gives. It doesn't matter.
Give the answer yourself - "I don't think so. I know more than you know about yourself, and although you might claim this isn't true, it is.
Start picking out the problems she has with him - "what about smoking/ what about not understanding you/ what's with his anger, god knows he might even hit you someday/ what's with him talking to girls is fine, and you talking guys is a crime/ ____ (fill yours). "
Ask her questions like - Tell me something, if you hadn't ever met him but met me instead, would you have fallen for me? And answer this logically. (act as if it's an intellectual question)
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